PAGI YANG PENUH EMOSI

Ok jom becerita mengenai tajuk yang berat sedikit pada hari ini. I am not that knowledgable to talk about this matter, but based on my personal thoughts (and little bit of family experience), I was so terpanggil to write something about this. Let me give a situation so you gonna have some kind of feelings of apa yang aku nak berceramah hari ni.

Cerita,nama dan watak adalah rekaan semata-mata. Tiada kena mengena dengan yang hidup mahu pun yang telah meninggal dunia. (kena buat disclaimer ok, kang tak pasal aku kena saman. tak mampu der aku nak bayo juta-juta)

Ada seorang wanita bernama Lola. Lola ni has been married for 7 years, but rezeki diorang tak datang lagi utk ada cahaya mata. The main reason is because Lola ni penghidap diabetic. So pregnancy is somewhat risky to her. So selama 7 years itu, they lived happily, takde issue sangat pun even though the husband really really want to have their own child. Sebab takde anak, si Lola ni babysit anak jiran depan rumah dia.Jiran dia tu ibu tunggal yang dah divorced. Maka Lola jaga lah anak jiran dia tu dengan penuh kasih sayang. Husband si Lola ni pun sangat sayang kat baby tu. Not only that, jiran si Lola tu plak, selalu tumpang hasben Lola gi kerja. With the reason nak bantu ibu tunggal lah bagai, Lola ni pun tak kesah la. Bukan luak pun tumpang keta dia kata.

After 7 years, Alhamdulillah Lola pregnant. Yeay ! But because of her diabetic, the pregnancy menjadik a bit challenging for her. She had to go for check-up every two weeks ok. Tapi dia gigih dan tabah je. Her husband pun gave full support and Alhadulillah selamat delivered masa 7 months. So 2 months la baby kena duduk dalam incubator. dah tu deliver kat private, but kalau dah sayang weife dan anak, husband tak komplen pun.

After 2 years, Lola pregnant for her 2nd child pulak ! Alhamdulillah. Tu lah kalau dah rezeki kan. Dah selamat delivered pun in May 2011. Unfortunately Tuhan nak menduga dia mungkin, anak dia ada jantung berlubang. Apa-apa pun Lola tetap bersabar & bersyukur.

And macam biasa lah, dia invite saudara-mara semua pegi kenduri aqiqah anak dia tu. But guess what, that kenduri adalah 2 in 1 ekceli. Sebab apa ??

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Aqiqah + kenduri kesyukuran husband dia nikah ngan jiran depan rumah yang dia tolong jagakan anak time dia takde anak tu ! WTF kan ? In fact they got married masa Lola ni dalam pantang 2nd child tu. WTF lagi skali ! All the relatives didn't know about that dan menyanjung jee laki si Lola ni. But not until that day dia buat muka selamba declare 2nd wife dia tuh.

And Lola ni siap mengaku, dia yang pegi teman hasben dia beli baju nikah, hantar pegi pejabat agama yada..yada..yada.. But jauh kat sudut hati dia, she must be suffering dan kecewa. Sebab dia dah bertarung nyawa nak dapatkan cahaya mata, but still hasben dia memilih utk berpoligami. Pastu diap duduk sebumbung plak ngan madu dia, hey ape kes! And I think Lola felt so unsecure and scared if the husband leaves her because Lola is a full-time housewife. 100% dependent to the husband.

I'm telling this as my personal view, which I disagree dengan tindakan hasben dia tu. Memanglah when it comes to poligamy, people keep mentioning pasal sunah Rasulullah. I am not at the level who can talk about Al-Quran & Sunnah . But from my knowledge, poligamy is mentioned in Surah An-Nisaa. 

4: 2. And give to the orphans their property, and do not substitute worthless (things) for (their) good (ones), and do not devour their property (as an addition) to your own property; this is surely a great crime. 

4: 3. And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course. 

Paham ke tak? or you need me to translate and eloborate ? 

Kan ke dah mentioned tu, kena berbuat baik kepada orphans. Then kalau tak boleh, boleh kawen more than 1 untuk bela nasib anak yatim tu. Tapi kalau tak boleh berlaku adil dengan ada 2,3 or 4 wives, then kawen 1 je ok.

TAPI APA SUDAH JADI SEKARANG?

Lelaki kahwin lebih dari satu kerana………

1) NAFSU LELAKI MEMANG TINGGI 

2) PEREMPUAN TU MUDA DAN CANTIK, BAIK PULAK TUH 

3) ISTERI AKU DAH TUA AND CEREWET 

4) AKU DAH TAK CINTA ISTERI 

5) AKU KAYA, AKU MAMPU 

6) AKU BERZINA KARANG, HA! MANA KO NAK? 

We so rarely hear, I kahwin lagi sebab nak jaga anak yatim...

Credit to dianaluna

Orang boleh la cakap akan berlaku adil segala. But from my observation & experience from people around me, most of the time wanita-wanita ini akan kecewa. If they don't show it physically pun, they must be suffering from mental torture.

Heermm oh dunia. Apa-apa pun, sayangilah keluarga anda. Especially anak-anak yang masih kecil dan tak menerti apa-apa. Believe it or not, masalah sosial sekarang bermula sebab keretakan rumahtangga.Anak-anak mula terbiar, berdendam dengan parents sendiri & masing-masing hidup penuh tekanan.Jalan singkat untuk anak-anak is to spend most of their time with friends, whom parents tak penah amik tau pun siapa kawan-kawan tu (camne nak amik tau, kalau mak ayah dah tak sehaluan  ). Then bila bnyk kes buang bayi la, juvana bagai...masing-masing tuding jari to blame on others. Hemphh.

Ok dah. Entry tak berniat nak menyinggung sesiapa. Tima kasih.